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Reflections on the year we never asked for, never expected, but survived nonetheless.
My six lessons from 2020:
1. Plans are not meant to be set in stone
“We will make plans, we will fill them with the highest of our hope, but that won’t stop them from changing. And we need to prepare for that – not with baited, anxious breath.
But, rather, with an understanding that change happens, life can turn upside down, and we will be required to adapt.”
2. If you can’t control it, wing it.
” So, to curb the overwhelm and cope better, we created our own, personal safe houses.
Schedules and systems that involved no risk at all. That required as little redirection as possible and no need for taking chances. We reduced our hope to minimal levels in order to cope. And for a while it worked.
But, safe houses only feel good for a little while. Until you realize that you’ve been cooped up for so long, you’ve missed out on your life.
The truth is: even when this pandemic is over, you’ll find yourself still having to take chances.
Having to hope. Having to leap without knowing how it will pan out.
And you’ll have to leave the safe house because that house is not life. You can keep it for the days you need to rest and just be, but you cannot make it your home.
“This year has taught us how fleeting this life is. How quickly things change…and end. The time you have is a gift.”
3. Making the most of the things you can control
“For example, when I was painfully unemployed, I knew I couldn’t force anyone to give me a job. So, instead, I focused on what I could:
- Trailing job boards and applying to everything that fit my scope
- Constantly reviewing and updating my CV and freelancer profiles
- Putting my best foot forward in all my interviews
- Taking courses & reading books to improve my writing and marketing skills
I’m big on the “Preparation Meets Opportunity” mantra and I’ve tried to apply it in my life where possible.
When you focus on the things you can control, you’re preparing yourself for the good outcomes you’re looking for.”
4. Anger has its place…but know when to show it the door.
“…we need to be sure that anger doesn’t blind us. Blind us to the point where our actions cause more harm than good.
That doesn’t mean you should stifle anger and ignore it.
No, you’re angry because something happened to you, or someone else, and you’re not okay with what happened. Maybe you were hurt. Maybe you were harmed. Don’t disregard that anger, it is valid and should be felt. It should be expressed.
But, as the title of this section says, anger has its place. Give it room to speak, to be felt, to be acknowledged. However, do not let it overstay its welcome.
Because more often than not, this is when we end up becoming no better than the people who harmed us.”
5. Love on your people…love on them as much as you can.
“We need to be intentional about the way we treat the people we love. This is one place where procrastination can’t work. This is one place where we can’t keep saying “Tomorrow”. Tomorrow isn’t promised and it hurts to think of it.
Give your people their flowers while they’re alive. While they can respond to you. If you have conflict in your life that you can resolve, do it if you still care for that person.
Don’t let tragedy strike before you realize the importance of forgiveness and reconciliation.”
6. Lastly, be kind about your progress. You remind yourself of your failures enough.
“But, can you make time to acknowledge and dwell on the good progress you’ve made this year? Can you take stock of the areas you got things right, no matter how small, and give yourself credit for what you’ve done?
This has been a heavy year, even with the wins and accomplishments. While you may want to forget this year and turn 2021 into the year 2020 should have been, take time to sit in your progress and acknowldge that what you did was remarkable.
You survived. You pushed through. You gave life another chance.
Those aren’t small wins, friend. Treat yourself with the celebration you deserve.”
We will be okay
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