My Crynicles: A Digital representation of Modern dating as a young, black girl

My Crynicles, a web series on creator Sierra June’s love life, is the perfect illustration what navigating relationships as a young, black girl looks like.

If you’re a regular on Twitter, then you’ve definitely come across one of Sierra June’s videos. 

This one might jog your memory:

These videos are clips from her animated series My Crynicles, a channel dedicated to narrating her experiences with men who have treated her badly. 

I’d come across Sierra’s on Twitter. I found them floating around the timeline but I kept avoiding them because I knew I was going to get in my feels. People’s captions on the tweets were more than enough for me to know to stay away.

But the videos kept popping up and people’s comments were intriguing, so I clicked and dear Lord. 

My temper went from zero to 100 real quick.

This anger came from a place of remembering. I have a loaded artillery of stories of being clowned, gaslit, and taken for a fool. Most of these stories come with personal reflections on where I could have done better, but as I’ve grown I’ve also allowed myself to accept the instances where I couldn’t have seen the madness coming my way.

Sierra narrates her shows in a straightforward manner – which comes across as endearing because she has one of the most innocent voices I’ve ever heard. She recalls her experiences from high school, starting with an ex-boyfriend who left her stranded in the rain for another girl.

This show is intense. You will laugh, you’ll shake your head, but you’ll also spend a lot of time nursing heavy chest pains.

A lot of the situations Sierra found herself in weren’t unique to her. They’re moments I’ve found myself in too. From the casual friend who turns into a demon, to the “good Christian brother” who’s not ready to commit but still wants to call you “wife”, there is enough content for you to relate to.

I think that’s why this series has grown to be what it is. A lot of us women can see ourselves in Sierra. We’ve met at least one of these guys. We’ve been sold dreams. We’ve endured gaslighting, emotional abuse, and all kinds of ugly. We’ve had moments where we share shamelessly long essays, pouring out our hearts in hope that the recipient will finally see us.

Many of us are also survivors of sexual assault & violence. We’ve had to fight our ways out of manipulation.

This show is so easy to get lost in because it speaks to our hearts. It’s a reminder that we’re not alone and that we’re seen.

We watch because we relate. We watch because we know.

There were moments where I’d find myself shouting, “Baby, no! Don’t do it!” 

A part of me felt like I was shouting at my younger self, to be honest.

There’s a certain point in the series where things take an immensely heartbreaking turn and it’s hurt me to see women within my inner circle comment with, “That’s me.”

It hurts to know that women share a bond in surviving violence. In moments where we were stripped of our power. It hurts that we have to affirm ourselves with speeches, or castigate ourselves into believing we should have known better. I can’t wait until the day all the blame sits on the men who refuse to recognize boundaries and consent.

I can’t wait until we’re finally free from having to justify our actions.

It hurt to see that Sierra had to wait so long to speak on her pain. But, it was also so encouraging to see how she’s turned this into a way to help other women.

I feel proud of her when I watch this series because this is her telling her story on her terms. She’s owning her narrative and sharing her experiences openly. I feel proud of her as if I know her.

But she’s so vulnerable, by the time you finish the series, you’ll feel as if you know her, too.

Her latest video comes out this weekend. If you haven’t watched the series yet, then you need to add it to your immediate watchlist.
You can find her channel here.

Chrıs do, Seth Godin, and the Creative’s Remedy for Fear, Doubt, and Procrastination

Thursdays are for content-inspired posts. This week’s feature is a review of an episode of The Futur: Seth Godin—Make Something Everyday (Best Hour You’ll Spend Today)

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Chris Do & Seth Godin in the early minutes of the episode

Chris Do, the host, did a great job of navigating such important topics with Seth. He’s a natural conversationalist and this episode is a firm favorite of mine now.

There were multiple topics that were covered but I’d like to zone on the concept of “starting”.

This is now my personal and professional theme for the foreseeable future: Just start.

It was inspired by Seth’s 100-day blogging challenge.

For 100 days straight, Seth blogged every day, just for the sake of sharing. There was no focus on analytics, no push to share the work, and almost no plan. The goal was to make sure that every day a post went up – no matter what.

His blog has become a global sensation, with millions of subscribers and one blog post released every day. Seth also happens to be one of the leading minds in the marketing industry. He’s written over 18 books, appeared at countless conferences, and finds himself involved in new projects almost every other day.

His laid back demeanor caught my attention first. Most marketing thought leaders I’ve come across take the bright and chipper brand so seriously, I was almost thrown off by Seth’s chilled vibes. It was refreshing for me, to be honest. It was refreshing because it felt real.

I’m skeptical of following popular thought leaders because somewhere along the lines their content ends up saying the same thing, just with different words. But, this episode of The Futur, which also happens to be the first episode I ever watched, provided information that was refreshing.

Seth’s takes on topics like education, college & career choices, critical thinking, etc. were impassioned but realistic to listen to. Some of them caught me off guard and made me want to re-evaluate my stance on a few things, but at no point did I feel like I was being forced to understand his opinion.

The questions addressed during the episode are still relevant today – this episode aired in 2018 – and I’ve found myself raving about parts of this episode ever since I listened to it. If you’re someone who’s trying to navigate a stage of their life, then you should give this video a chance.

I want to zero in on the “just start” message Seth shared for creators. He spoke about the biggest struggle creatives face on a regular basis: trusting our work enough to create it. It’s safe to say that our field gets bogged down the most by crippling doubt, endless questioning, and overwhelming fear.

Some of us are sitting on stellar ideas that we’ve had for years. What’s keeping us from executing them?

“It’s not the right time.”

“I’m not sure if people will like it.”

“I don’t know if it’s worth pursuing.”

The point of “just starting” and focusing on releasing consistently isn’t to be good. It’s to be disciplined and to push ourselves.

“When you commit to sharing content every day,” Seth explained. “You become more observant of the things around you.”

I’ve only been at this challenge for four days and I’ve felt my mind adjust to finding interesting things to write on. One thing that encourages me the most is the absence of fear when Seth talks about failure and producing “bad work”. 

In a paraphrased version of Seth’s words: you’ll outwrite the bad stuff, eventually. But if you keep producing “bad work”, then maybe it’s a sign that you need to change paths.

Hearing those words was freeing and reminded me of Elizabeth Gilbert’s thoughts on creating work. Create because you want to. Create because you’ll enjoy it.

Take chances because you want to see where they’ll take you. Every decision to start will lead you somewhere worth going – even if the lesson is “don’t do this again”.

If you have an hour to spare or want to play something good in the background while you work, then I highly recommend this podcast.

The link is right here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kZmxAOHyDBI.

And as you listen, I hope you get a renewed enthusiasm for the goals you tucked away because you felt like the right time hasn’t come.